Five Questions You Can Ask Fellow Swingers

Date 16th Apr 2015 | Views  924

I got a really interesting message from someone on our website this week. It was regarding what to actually say to other swingers when you are first contacting them. What kind of questions are are OK, and what will be insulting?

Well, in response, I am bringing you five questions it is acceptable to ask when you first meet another swinging couple. I hope it comes in useful.

1) How Long Have You been Together?

This question works on a couple of different levels. Firstly, it will give you a chance to get to know the couple, helping conversation flow naturally.

However, if they have only been together for a few weeks, it may not be that strong a relationship, and certainly not one that should be swinging at this juncture. If this is the case, then it is up to you whether you continue. Personally, I wouldn't, as I want to make sure that everyone is REALLY as comfortable as they say they are.

2) How Long Have You Been Swinging?

This will give you a chance to get to start off the conversation, even if it does sound a bit like the cliche, 'do you come here often?' Every conversation needs to start somewhere, doesn't it?

This will also give you an indication on how comfortable they are. More precisely, it will give an indication as to why, if they are looking uncomfortable, this may be the case. Some experienced swingers just have a naturally worried look, but if they are new to the game, they may need reassurance, or maybe a halt to proceedings.

3) When Were You Last Tested?

No, this won't be offensive. Although you are likely to be using a condom, condoms split. If it has been an eternity since the other swingers last test, then it may be an idea to pass on this particular encounter.

Remember folks; safety is the key.

4) Is She On Birth Control

Once again, you will be using a condom, but accidents do happen. I very much doubt any guy wants to have an unplanned pregnancy with a fellow swinger.

If the lady isn't on the pill, you should really be having second thoughts. No matter how unlikely it is that something bad will happen, those mistakes can really last a lifetime.

5) Where do you Want to Meet?

If you do decide you want to meet up, you will need to arrange where you are going to do it. This could be at one of your houses, or at a hotel.

After that, it is just a case of enjoying yourself.

Well, I hope that came in useful. Any other questions anyone has to offer, feel free to email me!