Date 3rd Sep 2015 | Views 819
Here at Swingers.ie, we all remember how nervous we were during our first encounter. Back then, for most of us, there weren't really websites we could go to to get advice about how to act when we got to our first party. For us, it was a case of trial and error.
However, we are now in a position to help out those who come after us. This is why we have put together a five point guide to how to act when you get to your first swingers meet. There are of course many other tips, and they can be found elsewhere on the website, but these will really help you keep a good relationship with your current partner, and have an enjoyable time.
Here goes.
1) Use Role Play
Before you even get to the swingers party, it is a good idea to use role play between yourselves. This will help you simulate what it will be like when you meet someone new. It will get you to ask yourself, and each other questions as to how you felt. Were you nervous? Anxious? Stimulated?
If you have an idea as to how you may feel, you will likely find your first experience more pleasurable.
2) Stay Together
We never know how we are going to react during our first encounter. That means that it is never a good idea to let our partner out of our sight. They may well be very uncomfortable with the whole situation, but if you are in a different room, how will you know?
If you stay together, then if one of you needs to back out, the other one will know and you can keep the lines of communication up.
3) Play at the Same Level
This is a big one. You should always set out beforehand how intimate you want to go with the other person. Then, when you get to the party you should keep to it. Even if you get really horny, stick to what you agreed.
If you don't, your swinging life may come to an end, and don't be too surprised if your relationship follows pretty quickly.
4) Have a Signal For Stopping
Before you get to the party, make sure that you have worked out a signal that you can give to your partner if you want to stop, or they can give to you. One of you may not be happy with swinging in general, or you may just have reservations about the one you have been paired off with. If you have a safety signal, it can bring the experience to a close.
If you see the signal, stop straight away. Don't try and get a few more minutes to finish yourself off. That would be a really really bad move.
5) Women Should Anticipate ED
Despite the notion that guys will jump at any opportunity to have sex, this is often far from the truth. The man may well get nervous as it is taboo to have sex with someone who isn't their partner. Consequently, the will may be there, but the body may not be following suit.
In this scenario, accept it if your partner struggles and discuss what the problem is and if he wants to continue.
In the event the man you have been paired off with starts to struggle maintaining an erection, don't give him any grief. It is perfectly natural and you can still play, even without him getting hard.
We hope that came in useful. Swinging can be a lot of fun, and if you do a bit of reading around, and follow those simple rules, you really can open up the doors into a more interesting and sexier life
