How To Refuse Swinging Politely

Date 29th Apr 2016 | Views  602

In the present, monogamy is a subject understood differently by most people. Old fashioned people might not agree with what many couples do today, but there are things happening and we can't ignore them. One of the things that are very popular among people who don't like dealing with monogamous relationships is swinging. And the most interesting part of it is that more and more women are the ones that initiate the swinging behavior in their relationship.

There are many types of swinging and if you are interested in having such a kinky experience, you should study your options carefully. There are couples who go for the intercourse without any kinds of regrets, but at the same time there are people who limit their naughty play, and penetration is always out of the question.

At the same time, there are many people who allow sexy escapades in their relationships but they don't want to know anything about them while there are people who want to know all details of the sexcapades. What these people have in common is the fact that they communicate and they agree with each other! This means that whatever you do in your relationship, you should never accept being pressured!

Saying "No" Is Not So Easy

We all have and deserve the right to have our own boundaries when it comes to our bodies and our emotions. When it comes to sex, we have different pleasures, and even though there is a close connection between you and your partner, there might be times when you enjoy different things.

When your partner comes with a swinging proposal you should not immediately say "no" or feel pressured to say yes. Before you make a decision, you need to talk about this subject, as well as think about it.

Refusing to fulfill your lover's desires is not easy. You will probably fear that your negative answer will lead you to breaking up. However, at the same time you being part of something you don't want to do, will not make your relationship last.

Now, when you tell your partner you don't want to experience swinging, you should be open about your feelings, talk about your fears and your own desires. Be honest about your insecurities and your beliefs. You can't just refuse and more important, you cannot be angry at your partner for proposing this. If you have a bad reaction to a moment of honesty, you might make your lover be less sincere in the future.

But Saying "Yes" Can Be Harder!

Telling your partner you can't be part of their sexual dreams can be hard, but not as difficult as going along with something you don't want to do. So, remember to be understanding with your lover and open about your feelings as well as honest with yourself, even if that means you are saying "no" to swinging. .

And if you are thinking about changing your mind in the future, make sure you become aware of what you are getting yourself into. This means that you should know everything about the dangers and the effects such an adventure can have on you and your relationship.

However, until you change your mind, diplomatically say "no" to swinging, as well as other activities you don't want to be part of. At the same time remember that just because you don't want to do the same thing as your partner, you should not change your behaviour. The fact that one of you came up with a kinky idea doesn't have to change your relationship! Who knows, maybe next time you will make an indecent proposal?