Date 15th Oct 2015 | Views 570
In the latest of our series where we take questions from member of or swinging community, we take one from a guy who has just got into a relationship with an experienced swinger.
He told us that he had had a few three way experiences, both MMF and MFF, but they had always been with friends who he had a good relationship with. However, his girlfriend has had more of a 'traditional' swinging lifestyle.
This was causing a few problems. Whilst his girlfriend wants to continue visiting swingers clubs, he would much rather do it with friends. The concept of going to a club and meeting strangers really stresses him out.
Now the question he had was, should he visit a swingers club with his partner, or should he stand firm? Here was my reply.
A Response
Hi mate, sorry to hear about your issue. I hope it isn't going to cause too many problems.
First things first, never let yourself get pressured into doing anything, If you don't want to go, don't go. Any relationship that would fail because you won't do something that makes you unhappy isn't worth having. To be fair, if you do end up doing something like this for someone else, then it is likely to bring the relationship to a halt anyway.
In the end, I can't give you a yes or no. The best thing you can do is speak to your partner. Talk about both your feelings. You will then both understand WHY the other one feels like they do.
One possibility is that you go to the swingers club and both just see how it goes. If you get there you will meet other swingers. You may find that you actually enjoy it. Most of us were sceptical when we began this journey.
Still, if you don't like it, then make sure you both leave. This isn't an excuse for you to sit on your own whilst the girlfriend is at the bedroom having sex with someone else.
This all seems pretty reasonable. If at any point your girlfriend things you are out of order, I would seriously question how much time you invest in this relationship. Sometimes people just aren't compatible.
Good luck, and let me know how it goes!
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