Date 20th Oct 2017 | Views 63
Swinging can be a lot of fun, but lets face it, doing it for the first time made all of us nervous. Back when I was starting we didn't even have the internet (or lets say it wasn't what it is now) so I went in there blind and muddled through the best I could. Thankfully now I am in a position to give some advice to those of you who are just starting out.
So without much further ado, here are five top tips for first time swingers. With any luck, they will be enough to start you out on your journey into this fun new world with a bit of confidence.
1) Don't Get Drunk
Yes we all know that going swinging for the first time is terrifying. However, there is a difference between having a drink to calm the nerves, and having four or five and getting pissed up. Being drunk will affect sexual performance, and may stop sex happening at all as you may not be trusted if you are slurring. On top of that, you may not look your best so you may get rejections anyway.
2) Communicate With The Other People
It is important that you get consent for what you are doing. So remember to check in with the fellow swinger who you are with to make sure that you have consent for every action you take. A quick 'is this OK?' or 'can I try this please?' will suffice, but by doing this we make sure that everyone is happy with what is going on.
3) Bring Protection
No, I don't mean an AK-47, this isn't Compton. I am talking about safe sex. No participants will accept sex without a condom, so it is a great idea to come prepared with condoms and lube. Yes, the place you go may well provide all this stuff, but it is better to be safe than sorry. There is nothing worse than going to a room and being asked 'didn't you bring the condoms?' so stop that happening by being prepared.
4) Don't Get Attached
You are not there to make new friends, or heaven forbid, new girlfriends or boyfriends. This is about sex and nothing else. You need to treat each other with respect, but if you are the kind of person who gets emotional attachment after intercourse then swinging isn't for you. When you finish, be pleasant, thankful, and then leave. Don't ask for their number and don't ask to meet up again. Leave it there.
5) Don't Get Jealous
The idea that someone is having sex with your partner just feet away is weird. Nothing will change that, and it is something you will have to get straight in your head before you start this journey. You are allowing each other to have fun, and then coming back together later in the evening stronger for it. You don't want to be going home interrogating your partner about what they did because you feel insecure. If that seems TOO weird, try another hobby, it is that simple.
So there we go. Swinging can be fun, and if you don't have a disastrous experience first time out, then it will be even better. This will surely help you out.
