Date 26th Feb 2016 | Views 560
I believe that we can all establish that sex and love are different; otherwise, this website wouldn't exist! It's an exciting experience for any swinger to have when they'd meet new and open minded people to swap partners with.
Normally, a relationship between two or more swingers is purely about sex; anything else that gets involved in that relationship has the possibility to end acrimoniously. What are some of the things that could mess up that relationship? Let's think about it for a little bit. Hmm…let's see…maybe feelings for another swinger?
Emotions can be a bitch to handle…
Before you start wife-swapping with other people, you have to ask yourself if you are stable enough to maintain a pure sex relationship with another swinger. You need to have a strong relationship with your other half in order to swing without thinking about something serious in the back of your mind. Of course, the fantasy of sleeping with another person while being in a relationship with someone else can give anyone wet dreams for a month, but what a lot of people are not aware of are the possible obstacles that would make them trip up.
You may have read many 'horror' stories about relationships being torn apart because one person started to get infatuated with another one. If not, then you would have seen many people asking for help on what to do when they start getting feelings for another swinger on '**! Answers' or 'Reddit'. To be honest, I wouldn't post a question on 'Reddit' unless I wanted to get trolled…However, it is a question that many wife-swappers would need answers for if they ever get into a sticky situation that would involve emotions, so listen up, swingers!
If you want an answer that is straight and honest, it would be to terminate the swinging relationship that you have with the other couple entirely. You have to be completely honest with your other half when you're wife-swapping, if you don't, you would experience a lot of negative feelings that are best avoided; like jealousy, paranoia and mistrust.
Of course, your partner would feel devastated to hear that you can't carry on swinging because you've started to develop a crush on another companion, but it's better than hiding it and making your current partner have to work out what has changed with you. However, if you're able to continue with your swinging adventures, then it's advised that you find a new couple to get acquainted with. The last thing that you want to happen is experiencing the movie plot of 'Closer' in real life.
The purpose behind swinging is that you want to be sexually open with your partner; not on your own. You love your other half so much that you want to her to accompany you on your erotic adventures and vice versa. If you're having sex with other couples because you've started to get bored in the bedroom with your current partner, then you're swinging wrong.
How to make it a win-win situation
You and your life-long companion should have a set of rules to state what is acceptable while partner-swapping and what isn't. Furthermore, swinging is an experience that should happen when you're together, not when you're solo; that's what you would call an open relationship. If you start breaking those rules, that's when the trust between you and your lover starts to fall apart.
Don't be tempted to see the other couple without your current companion, otherwise, that's just cheating and you'd defeat the purpose of swinging. If I've been swinging with a partner for a little while, but I've suddenly started to develop feelings for another person's companion, that I would say that we'd have to see other couples. If I love my boyfriend or girlfriend enough, I wouldn't want to do anything that could jeopardise our current relationship.
Sometimes, swinging can either make or break your partnership. It can either enhance your love for your companion further and can make you enjoy any sexual experience that you'd have with her. Or, it can make the cracks appear in the walls and start to make the foundations of your relationship crumble. Nevertheless, meeting another person who you'd end up fancying could be another obstacle that'd you'd just have to hurdle over; that is why you find another swinging couple to get acquainted with. In fact, it's advised that you encounter multiple swinging couples instead of sticking with one pair.
You're meant to drift through every sexual experience that you'd have with all of the people that you'd meet; simply enjoying the moment. Don't start falling for someone and tumbling down the rabbit hole, otherwise, you'd have a lot of trouble getting yourself out of that hole.
